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Relationships and communication

You'll never establish a (functional) relationship or repair one without communication followed by understanding. It doesn't matter if the relationship is with your spouse, children, other family members or God. When you talk to it, the relationship will grow. In which direction is determined by the energy you place behind the communication Transparency: I USED to think that it was just enough that I was at work all day and coming home, to me then that was relationship enough as I had never seen or experienced anything more than that. A relationship is lit-er-al-ly defined as "a way in which people are connected" It never really dawned on me that I claimed to be in this relationship but I am not really communicating with this person and how they might feel about it. If you look at it this way, I was being selfish with my time, effort and energy but expected time, effort and energy when the kids went to bed (😋) An emotional investment is just that, an inv

Podcast: Marriage the 3rd Ring S1-E3

Podcast talking about the recent conversation John Grey had on Sister Circle.

Go Thru and GROW thru!

Episode 2 of our podcast! Make sure you are subscribed. Discussing Going thru, and how trials test you. Also, growing in your trial to come out stronger! Podcast available here !

Podcast: Overview of Marriage the 3rd Ring S1-E1

Marriage the 3rd Ring, who we are and what we do. This is our first podcast, an intro to how we came up with the idea of Marriage the 3rd Ring and why. Please listen in and follow us on our journey to encourage couples trying to find their way. If you are not subscribed to our Podcast, please do so thru all major Pod Catchers. Our podcast feed can be found by clicking here!

Don't become a villain while you are waiting for your healing!

This is how it goes, when someone hurts us and that pain hurts you to your core the first thing that usually happens (if you're like me) is you draw back. That's only natural though, you touch a hot stove you quickly draw back, step on a Lego in the middle of the night, you holler out in pain screaming dear God what just happened, but you draw back quickly and hug your foot. The point is we do a quick assessment of potential injuries and remove ourselves from the source of the affliction. What about deep wounds though? Not the kind of wound where you stick your finger with a pin and then immediately suck on it. The kind where if you don't go get professional help something bad will happen heavy loss of blood, infection or worse.  Often times when we are deeply hurt emotionally, we draw back and stay there. We may seek help initially but for the main part we remain guarded. So what happens, that deep wound begins to heal on the surface but underneath infections grow.  I call

Go thru!

Everyone goes thru hard times and married couples are of no exception. A popular misconception though is that just because there are 2 people involved one or both of them have to just get over whatever they are going thru in order to get by. 1. That totally dismisses the issue at hand and asks one or both of them to bury their feelings. Eventually those feelings (regarding whatever the issue is) will fester and mutate into something else and something as simple as the dishes not being down will blow up into a big thing. 2. Does NOT reconnect the couple back together and creates a sense of, oh well we are just stuck in this now. This eventually turns into resentment and possibly leads down other avenues that could be destructive to the relationship. Having found out first hand, there is a big difference between getting over something and getting thru something. Imagine drilling a hole deep into the ground and you come across a huge rock, you have 2 options, dig around that rock or

Won’t he do it?

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“For the Lord God is a sun and shield: the Lord will give grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly.” ‭‭Psalms‬ ‭84:11‬ ‭KJV‬‬ How many times has God brought you out of something or brought you through something, that you had no idea how you were going to get through? A lot of us can have faith when it comes to financial, health, employment etc., So why not our marriages? If we have faith God will heal pain in our arm or foot and it doesn’t happen as fast as we won’t it do we cut it off, because we’re tired of waiting and feel like we can get another one that’s better? Doesn’t really make sense does it? So why is it so easy to walk away from marriage? If God placed you together, why do you think it is so easy to walk away and so easy to divorce, and why do you think you can find somebody better? That’s what you figure out before you get married, before you take vowels. Yes marriage is not easy nothing worth having is and yes things happ