Marriage: The 3rd ring

Good morning! I was listening to the radio while driving back from work the other day and a song came on that I had to put on repeat! Some of you may know it, but it says sometimes you have to encourage yourself and sometimes you have to speak victory during the test, no matter how you feel... This song just blessed me! Then I thought about a friend who is having problems in their marriage and life. At a time like this when the biblical portrait of marriage is absolutely under attack, it is highly crucial that you find yourself 1. Rooted in God and 2. Speak life into your situation and into your marriage. Psalm 37:4 - Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. It's not that God is a genie and you just have to say a few words and then poof, insta-miracle. No. But when you truly line yourself up with the Word of God your thoughts begin to line up with the will of God. Thy will be done in earth as it is in heaven. Proverbs 18:21 - Death

Are you transparent in your relationship? Really think about this. Does your spouse know where you are? Do you have open communication? Not just responding to questions,  but engaging in conversation. Communicating with how your day was and what you did. Do you come home after work and if not died your spouse know where you are? If someone flirts with you or contacts you and you know it not a good idea, do you tell your spouse or do you just hold it in? In building strong communication and relationships and  trust. We need to be transparent. Yes we all are our own people and entitled to privacy. But if your cell phone is locked. WHY? If your engaging in conversation and actions you wouldn't want your spouse doing or your spouse couldn't do it with you. WHY are you doing it. What's the point? 1 Thessalonians  5:22 Abstain from all appearance of evil. Meaning your intentions may be good. But how does it appear? How did it appear to God, to your spouse. God