Marriage: The 3rd ring

“For the Lord God is a sun and shield: the Lord will give grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly.” ‭‭Psalms‬ ‭84:11‬ ‭KJV‬‬ How many times has God brought you out of something or brought you through something, that you had no idea how you were going to get through? A lot of us can have faith when it comes to financial, health, employment etc., So why not our marriages? If we have faith God will heal pain in our arm or foot and it doesn’t happen as fast as we won’t it do we cut it off, because we’re tired of waiting and feel like we can get another one that’s better? Doesn’t really make sense does it? So why is it so easy to walk away from marriage? If God placed you together, why do you think it is so easy to walk away and so easy to divorce, and why do you think you can find somebody better? That’s what you figure out before you get married, before you take vowels. Yes marriage is not easy nothing worth having is and yes things happ

Psalm 136 KJV   O give thanks unto the  Lord ; for he is good: for his mercy endureth for ever. How many of us are really thankful?  So many times it’s hard to just be thankful, we got bills that take all of our money, children  getting on your nerves,our  spouse is driving us crazy, your job sucks. And this is just a few things on some days. But if we take a minute and look at our situation like yes, I have bills, but thank God I have the money to pay them, our children are healthy and we have food to eat, clothes to wear and shoes on our feet.so thank you lord for the blessings. I know it sounds crazy because most of us have never been in a situation where any of this was an issue. So that’s why when certain things happen we panic we get upset and irritated, and complain. We complain about the simplest things. So when you think about marriage especially your marriage how many times do you complain about your spouse not taking out the trash, doing the dishes, cooking enoug

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This title alone holds so much weight, when I hear this it really makes me think. So many things can happen in this world in our lives that can leave a chip on our shoulders. Wether it’s childhood  hurt, family hurt Church hurt or relationship hurt. Usually with any of these things happen it’s by someone we trust or in a situation where we feel safe enough to let our guard down. So what do we do how do we move on, how do we not make others pay for the hurt that we have experienced? Do we stay mad?  Honestly, that’s easy to do when we are hurt. In some cases, our heart is broken in multiple pieces and we can’t begin to know how to patch it up, so why forgive, why trust. I guess the saying everyone likes to use is “burn me once shame on me burn me twice shame on you”. But is that really how it works is that how God wants us to approach situations? Not at all! At the end of the day we have to put it in God’s hand.  Forgiveness is not for that other person, it is for us. If we hold on

We've been there, if you are married and breathing you've been there. Anytime you are dealing with anyone else and their own individual opinions some one is bound to get upset, especially when both parties are pretty are set. Arguing, hot tempered conversations, quarreling... Whatever you call it, most people don't like to talk about it.  From my experience, having a argument (or heated discussion) is a perfectly normal occurrence in any marriage. There are a few rules though that must be followed if there is to be growth afterwards. 1.  Be respectful  2. Keep your tone in check 3. Pray and ask God for guidance When talking to your spouse about a topic that can be pretty heated it is quite easy for a "shady" comment to slip out. Be respectful, be kind and be loving, even when it's hard to! Don't return shade with shade, that's a good way to stifle the conversation and miss out on the opportunity to connect with your spouse. This leads into the next rul

That's right, I said it... I am not perfect! When I came into my marriage 15 years ago, I had no idea what marriage truly was supposed to look like. No one told me the required amount of patience, forgiveness and sacrifice was needed in a marriage. Like really, someone should really come up with a numerical value to this and this numerical value needs to be agreed upon census. Like, 'we asked 10,000 married couples and per their level of expertise...' Even if that happened and every married couple was asked what they felt was the right amount of patience, forgiveness and sacrifice, would that be enough?  Even if that happened and every married couple was asked what they felt was the right amount of patience, forgiveness and sacrifice, would that be enough? What would their answer on? Most likely, if you provided and answer within your self, the first thing you probably thought about was how much you are willing to bear for someone else. That is alot to ask anyone.  I

1 Corinthians 13:11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. So I felt like I wanted to address the marriage issue in the media right now. There were so many scriptures that came to mind. Especially scriptures on divorce, but this seemed perfect. Hopefully when we get married it’s is for better or worse and till death do you part. But we know things happen if there is infidelity that you can’t forgive we know God gives you a pass because he doesn’t want your heart to be hardened and I have a problem with abuse I don’t recommend nobody stays when they are being abused and the spouse won’t get help, i somewhat wonder if Hod was ever in that marriage. But when you see irreconcilable differences, I wonder First of all you both are human you’re not going to think the same. But you don’t want a puppet you want someone with a different opinion sometimes and if it is causing friction pray

We just came back from a cruise last week with some sessions on marriage and business, a lot of very good information. So my husband asked me if I could take 1 word from this week, what would it be. Well my word was intentional. And that is because as a full-time mom, full-time wife and full-time nurse my life gets hectic and so many times we get caught up in the hustle and bustle we are letting life run us. But if we start living life intentionally, and being intentional in our marriage, it could be so much better. For instance giving your spouse words of affirmation. Most time y'all see each other in passing between work and activities and children activities it's hard to focus on something as simple as "you're wonderful" "you're sexy" things like that because you're thinking about work and life. Something as simple as setting a reminder in you phone to send a text or make a phone call can help you be intentional. Setting date nights on